I am now on day number three of what I have dubbed "inconsolable afternoons." Clean diaper? Check. Full tummy? Check. Burped? Check. Won't burp? OK. Mylecon? Check. Comfortable? Don't see any pinchy diapers… Check. Rocking in her boppy doesn't work, binkies don't work, holding her and rubbing her back doesn't work, singing lullabies doesn't work (although my singing voice may just exacerbate the problem…).
Only two things have changed this week that are completely new to her since she was born. Number one is that Cody returned to work on Wednesday. So is this in any way connected to my husband's absence after being here consistently over the first six weeks of Linnea's life? I'm gonna say no, mostly because I'd like to think I'm enough to console her, but I may be in denial because she is already so clearly a Daddy's Girl. All he has to do is hold her and speak gently in her ear and she is GOLDEN. Sometimes when I pick her up she screams even louder… unless, of course, I'm feeding her. Then it's the epitome of peaceful in this household.
See? Screaming when Mom holds her:
Happy as a clam when Daddy holds her:
And I will spare you a picture of me feeding her. But trust me, she's perfectly fine when I do.
Anyway, RULING THAT OUT, that leaves me with a solid theory as to why she's so upset in the afternoons, because I just don't think these are so-called "daily fussy times." This is knock-down, drag-out, top-of-the-lungs screaming as soon as she is done eating that has lasted almost until her next scheduled feeding. With no daytime naps. And it is COMPLETELY my fault. The theory?
I started drinking caffeinated coffee again. Not a gallon at a time, but a cup or two in the mornings. And after drinking strictly decaf when I was pregnant, this may have been a bit of a shock to her tiny system. Consequently I have a very unhappy infant who doesn't sleep longer than 15 minutes at a time between feedings and crashes at night. (But hey, at least she sleeps at night!) No wonder she doesn't like me. Ha!
Anyway, we'll see if my theory is correct now that I'm giving up the stuff… again. God forbid we have a colicky baby- I would feel so bad for her because I imagine that is miserable! We'll just keep our fingers crossed for more times like these:
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Daddy's girl from Andrea Alley on Vimeo.
If giving up coffee works that is great, and I hope it does. But if not, I really hate to tell you this, but there is probably nothing you can do but just survive until she’s a little older. I know it really rocked my world when I realized there was nothing I could do about Lily having a similar fussy time every day from about 5-8pm for several weeks. But I honestly think it’s better to just accept it and do your best to get through it then to obsess over when you can do differently. I spent sooooo much mental energy worrying about what I was doing wrong. By the second kid I truly accepted, it was just being an infant. One idea I can give you is that babies really need to go to bed early sometimes… like 7pm. Getting into a good, early, bedtime routine helped a little. Good luck!!!!
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